Seven Tips for Giving Up Gossip
1. Recognize that gossip doesn’t undo the situation you’re talking
about. It only puts in motion another situation based on negative feelings.
2. Know that comparing yourself to others is useless. Everyone has his or
her own talents. In this way, give up jealousy and the wish to put others down.
3. Be aware of and transform your own thoughts, words, and deeds rather than
commenting on those of others.
4. Train your mind to see others’ positive
qualities and discuss them. This will make you much happier than gossiping ever
5. Forgive, knowing that people do harmful things because they are
unhappy. If you don’t make someone into an enemy, you won’t want to gossip about
6. Have a sense of humor about what you think, say, and do, and be able
to laugh at all of the silly things we sentient beings carry out in our attempt
to be happy. If you see the humor in our human predicament, you’ll be more
7. Practice saying something kind to someone every day. Do this
especially with people you don’t like. It gets easier with practice and bears
surprisingly good results.
Bhikshuni Thubten Chodron is a
student of H.H. the Dalai Lama and founder of Sravasti Abbey in Washington
State. Her most recent book is Cultivating a Compassionate Heart.
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Cultivating a Compassionate Heart
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